Today, I ask
Are you Shy Much?
For me, yes, I am. Once I get to know you tho, I’m good. Dave (the hubs) is the exact opposite and can carry on a convo with anyone anywhere. When we go somewhere I won’t know anyone, he doesn’t understand my nervousness. I don’t know what to talk to a stranger about! How do you even get started? When I know there’s common ground, I don’t have a problem, it’s when I absolutely don’t know anything about someone is when I clam up. When someone does strike up a convo with me, sometimes I am a goofball and answer stupidly (because I’m a nerd too – hello!! I was in the marching band! lol).
When I was in high school, it was super tough! From 1st to 8th grade I went to a catholic school. Had my group of friends that’d I’d known for forever. Then, came high school. Holy shit! My little world was no more. All of my grade school friends went to catholic high schools except me and like two other girls. So, here I am starting a brand new school knowing those two girls and my two cousins. My cousins took me under their wings and helped me. They were in the marching band and talked me into joining. You wanna know the crazy part?! I had never played an instrument in my entire life. No clue how to read music. Nothing. I still can’t believe I did that. Talk about difficult!! I did meet some great people tho.
So, how can I help you when I am still struggling?
I did some research! Most of it was stupid, but, I did find a few bits of helpful info. As you read these tips, remember, all you have to do is try! 7 Ways to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety if from World of Psychology. I figured “why reinvent the wheel”! I picked the ones that really hit home for me. After each Way, I’ll add my opinion and experience. Just click the link above to read all 7 ways 🙂
Confidence comes through action, learning, practice, and mastery. Remember when you learned how to ride a bike? It was terrifying at first, but after you just went for it and tried it, you got it, and felt confident. Social confidence works the same way. Feeling anxious is not the problem; avoiding social interactions is the problem.” Avoiding social interaction is def my game. Staying at home with the pups and a book are all I need. I’ve made progress after joining Seniors Ignite. I ventured to Vegas for a photoshoot. Talk about unfamiliar and nerve-wracking! None of us really knew each other except thru our private FB group. Everyone was amazing. It was like we have known each other all along. And, the models?! OMG, they couldnt have been more adorable, kind, and fun.
this means participating in small talk in the checkout line and talking to strangers at bars, stores, sporting events, and the gym. Additionally, approach the individuals to whom you are attracted romantically. Talk to them. Ask them to dance. Ask them out on dates. Life is short. Who cares if you get rejected? There are seven billion people on this planet. You’re not expected to like or be liked by all of them. Take some chances and put yourself out there to meet new people.” Holy moly! This is tough. The feeling of rejection. Ugh, this is where my main issue is. For Sure!
Join a club, a sports team, or an improv class. Pick up a new project, take on a difficult task at work, or learn a new skill. Do something to get out of your comfort zone. Part of overcoming shyness is about developing confidence in several areas of your life and not letting anxiety, fear of failure, fear of rejection, or fear of humiliation get in your way.” I joined the marching band to meet new people and make friends (mostly b/c my mom made me). While it was a struggle not only to friggin learn how to read music and play an instrument, I had to learn how to march! Oh, btw, I played the cymbals. Make a mistake and EVERYONE knows. And, yes, of course I made mistakes, luckily not during competition. Thank you Jesus.
These are just a few ways to overcome shyness. Click the link above to read the rest!
I’d love to hear how you’re overcoming your shyness! If you know someone who struggles with shyness as much as I do, feel free to share this post with them!